Day 5: The Unsent Love Letter

Dear ___________,

Retrospect has brought some fond memories. In the midst of youth, there were times where my heart fluttered yet I was too distracted to notice.

I didn’t understand it as a kid in elementary school. The first girl I liked was liked by most of the boys in 5th grade. She loved dolphins and wrote about it in a class activity. At the opportunity to impress her, I ended up annoying her.

You probably don’t remember. I felt bad and wanted to apologize. Somehow, I understood pride. Courage, however, was far from me.

I knew my chances were over. So, my young mind wondered to a girl who just arrived to our school. I had big crush on her. But most of my friends liked her, too. When I didn’t get any attention, I made it business to show everyone I didn’t like her. Inside my little naive heart, I adored her.

I was mean to you for no reason. I had a crush on you for sure. Every snarky look was out of boyish infatuation. Typical yet truthful.

I had a crush in middle school. It was mutual, at least it felt mutual. I was so caught up in being tough. I found my macho bravado but lacked the courage to tell the girl I half-ass carried to the nurse’s office that I liked her.

You were as sweet as a ripe peach, so pretty that I was afraid to maim your beauty with my bald, oily fingers.

High school was different. With no car I felt inadequate. I put all of my focus into school. Of course, my crushy vibes continued. It was without measure. It was a race, and I was way behind all the other dudes.

I got bold one day. On Valentine’s Day 2006, I gave my crush a poem. I spelled her name wrong though. How cute. Unfortunately, she was dating someone else.

I should’ve pursued you more. The opportunity like many others went by, and I let it happen.

Most of all, I let a jewel in my adulthood slip away. The boyish habits sustained. The petite beauty persisted. I ignored her thinking only of my selfish desire.

This uncoventional letter, this confessional blunder of words, is regret.

As a kid, I wasn’t supposed to understand the ins and outs of courtship. As an adult, however, I was conscious. I complained about being lonely while the lady that burned for me raised her hand.

Life granted me ambition. I’ve been married to it for a long time. I didn’t think there was enough room for a girlfriend. What I didn’t realize was the room I had within my life. I was selfish.

There was enough room for you.

Although our time has long since passed, I’m here to say that I never forgot you. You left me an impression that I’ll treasure for life. And for that, I thank you.

Cordially,

Elijah

How to have a Good College Experience

If you haven’t moved already, you’re a few days away before you enter into the best experience of your life: college.

For some of you, this will be the longest time you’ve been away from home. Some feelings of sadness and excitement will meld together.

I’m here to give you some pointers on how to enjoy your collegiate years.

1. Make Friends

Being away from home can bring home sickness. It’s essential that you mingle with everyone. That includes roommates, neighbors, and classmates. Once you connect with people, you’ll forget about your home sickness.

2. Establish Boundaries

As you mingle, you will want to set some boundaries on who come to your room. Ladies, don’t invite guys to your room or visit his room right away. Establish trust first.

The second is food. Raiding your roommate’s food stash is one of the rudest things you can do in college. Ask and you shall receive… Sometimes.

3. Social and Collegiate Balance

There’s no question about it. Hanging out with people who enjoy the same things you do is a blast. And time flies when you’re having fun. The semester will fly by before you know it, so it’s important to focus on what your money is paying for.

Have a time where you party and have a time where you study.

4. Getting a Job

If you can handle a part-time job while in college, go for it. You’d be surprised how much money you’ll make in a year. That’ll give some relief to parents that may send you money and it prepares you for the real world.

Landing part-time job in your field of study is gold. The transition after college will definitely help your career pursuit.

5. Learn Career Skills in College

This applies to all colleges students. Take advantage of your college resources and learn skills outside of your field of study. Some students can double major or pick up a minor.

If that’s not an option, get involved with student clubs, volunteering, or inquire professors about the industry you want to enter.

Be an intern as well. It’s effective on a resume. Employers do consider you more if you intern with them.

6. Collaborate ideas with Other Students

As your social circle gets bigger, use this time to collaborate creative ideas with your friends and fellow students. Entities like Youtube, Twitch, Facebook, etc. is home to free promotion and expression of creativity. Who knows what it might turn into.

7. Find the Fun in Course Work

Homework, reading, and papers feel like a chore sometimes. The “chore” feeling can damage the quality of your hard work. You’ll be trying hard to get course work done rather than working on whether it’s done correctly. Lack of clarity can keep you away from A’s. No A’s hurts your GPA.

Did I forget something? Or do you have a question? Comment your questions and tips below, and I’ll answer as honest as possible.